It used to be rather easy to define cheating; if your honey was making out with someone which could be anything from kissing to an full fledged bedroom romp, it was cheating. In other words it was the physicality that counted. These days we're more self aware and couples have started to realize that where someone parks their emotions counts too.
As a result, it also came to be that engaging in a strong emotional or romantic exchange with someone outside of your relationship also constituted cheating. Okay, that's a little less black and white but we can still work with that. It's easy enough to understand.
It was easier too, way back when, to determine if a partner was unfaithful. Clues like staying late at work, failing to call when promised, sneaking away to make a phone call and getting caught lying. It wasn't too difficult to spot a straying spouse and deliver a good, old fashioned, slap in the face!
Now, with technological advances like text messaging, social networks, internet dating sites and email, it's harder than it used to be to determine with whom, and how, your partner may be "talking" to someone else.
Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it's difficult to not speculate, isn't it?
Moreover, in the event that you do uncover evidence of flirty texting or emailing, it begs the question of what is acceptable and what is not. It's such a grey area that it's entirely possible that if you confront your significant other with "evidence" they'll convincingly argue they're not doing anything wrong.
Talk about it
Face it: Facebook exists, MySpace exists (at least I think it still doesdo people still use that?), and that cell phone is almost always going to be in your honey's pocket. The arenas might be different but the basics are the same: you have to have trust with the person you're in a relationship with.
If that trust gets tested or you start having worries about the kind of communication the other person is having, I hate to admit it but you're going to have to have a somewhat stressful talk: what is cheating?
Every couple will come up with a different answer to this. It doesn't really matter what I think because the resolution will differ from one relationship to the next. Just remember to be true to yourself and don't agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Mutually agreeable boundaires are the way to go.
Keep the focus positive and spend less energy focusing on what could go wrong and more energy on the good stuff. Concentrate on making your relationship the best it can be by keeping each other interested and intrigued. - 32510
As a result, it also came to be that engaging in a strong emotional or romantic exchange with someone outside of your relationship also constituted cheating. Okay, that's a little less black and white but we can still work with that. It's easy enough to understand.
It was easier too, way back when, to determine if a partner was unfaithful. Clues like staying late at work, failing to call when promised, sneaking away to make a phone call and getting caught lying. It wasn't too difficult to spot a straying spouse and deliver a good, old fashioned, slap in the face!
Now, with technological advances like text messaging, social networks, internet dating sites and email, it's harder than it used to be to determine with whom, and how, your partner may be "talking" to someone else.
Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it's difficult to not speculate, isn't it?
Moreover, in the event that you do uncover evidence of flirty texting or emailing, it begs the question of what is acceptable and what is not. It's such a grey area that it's entirely possible that if you confront your significant other with "evidence" they'll convincingly argue they're not doing anything wrong.
Talk about it
Face it: Facebook exists, MySpace exists (at least I think it still doesdo people still use that?), and that cell phone is almost always going to be in your honey's pocket. The arenas might be different but the basics are the same: you have to have trust with the person you're in a relationship with.
If that trust gets tested or you start having worries about the kind of communication the other person is having, I hate to admit it but you're going to have to have a somewhat stressful talk: what is cheating?
Every couple will come up with a different answer to this. It doesn't really matter what I think because the resolution will differ from one relationship to the next. Just remember to be true to yourself and don't agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Mutually agreeable boundaires are the way to go.
Keep the focus positive and spend less energy focusing on what could go wrong and more energy on the good stuff. Concentrate on making your relationship the best it can be by keeping each other interested and intrigued. - 32510
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