Ladies, has this ever happened to you? You have a girlfriend, who, time after time, bails on your getting together because she received an invitation from a guy. After you'd already made plans. Because you're such a good friend, you murmur approvingly and say you understand.
Deep down inside, you're starting to become resentful and you feel more than a bit neglected. Here's a news flash for you; guys don't break guy plans to spend time with you, so you might want to think twice before cancelling gal pal plans for a guy. In truth, if he cared for you at all he'd be the first one to insist that you keep your original plan.
"First come, First served" is a popular business policy. So why aren't relationships like that too? Being with friends occasionally is not going to tear a strong relationship apart. Actually it will make it stronger because it shows all concerned that you have a life of your own too. Don't forget, you've likely known your friends a lot longer than you've know your sweetie.
Most women will say that you shouldn't let friends come between you and a guy. The flip side of this is that you shouldn't let a guy, specifically your guy, come between you and your friends. Unfortunately, we've all known a woman who starts dating, drops her friends by the wayside and becomes totally involved with her new beau.
Their newfound relationship consumes their whole life. They barely call their friends just to chat, and have no desire to since the woman feels that he is all she needs. Sometimes her productivity at works slows down or her career plans are put on hold for him. Some of you may be saying "oh, that's not me", but it can happen unconsciously.
Love is supposed to complement who you are. It's not supposed to leave you brain dead and lose your friends and maybe even your job. If the relationship doesn't last, you'll need your friends more than ever. The same people that you don't have time for now will be the one picking up the pieces when your lover hits the road.
It's likely that even if they haven't said so your friends wanted to confront you about your attitude towards them. They were probably afraid of damaging your friendship further. They're caring friends though because they'll keep their mouth shut while you sob your heart out in the wake of your last breakup.
If your guy can't understand that you have a life that may not include him, then you don't need him. It's that simple. Remember, you don't have to lose your identity to be in love or to be involved in a relationship. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. - 32510
Deep down inside, you're starting to become resentful and you feel more than a bit neglected. Here's a news flash for you; guys don't break guy plans to spend time with you, so you might want to think twice before cancelling gal pal plans for a guy. In truth, if he cared for you at all he'd be the first one to insist that you keep your original plan.
"First come, First served" is a popular business policy. So why aren't relationships like that too? Being with friends occasionally is not going to tear a strong relationship apart. Actually it will make it stronger because it shows all concerned that you have a life of your own too. Don't forget, you've likely known your friends a lot longer than you've know your sweetie.
Most women will say that you shouldn't let friends come between you and a guy. The flip side of this is that you shouldn't let a guy, specifically your guy, come between you and your friends. Unfortunately, we've all known a woman who starts dating, drops her friends by the wayside and becomes totally involved with her new beau.
Their newfound relationship consumes their whole life. They barely call their friends just to chat, and have no desire to since the woman feels that he is all she needs. Sometimes her productivity at works slows down or her career plans are put on hold for him. Some of you may be saying "oh, that's not me", but it can happen unconsciously.
Love is supposed to complement who you are. It's not supposed to leave you brain dead and lose your friends and maybe even your job. If the relationship doesn't last, you'll need your friends more than ever. The same people that you don't have time for now will be the one picking up the pieces when your lover hits the road.
It's likely that even if they haven't said so your friends wanted to confront you about your attitude towards them. They were probably afraid of damaging your friendship further. They're caring friends though because they'll keep their mouth shut while you sob your heart out in the wake of your last breakup.
If your guy can't understand that you have a life that may not include him, then you don't need him. It's that simple. Remember, you don't have to lose your identity to be in love or to be involved in a relationship. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. - 32510
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