Ladies, has this ever happened to you? You have a girlfriend, who, time after time, bails on your getting together because she received an invitation from a guy. After you'd already made plans. Because you're such a good friend, you murmur approvingly and say you understand.
Unfortunately, deep inside you began to feel a bit neglected and resentful. Mental note ladies; men don't break plans with the fellas for you, so you might want to think it about it before you cancel plans with your girlfriends for him. Actually, if he cares that deeply about you, he would probably insist that you keep you current plans.
There is a popular policy in business where it's "first come, first served." Why can't it be that way in relationships? If the relationship is strong enough, being with friends every now and then should not tear you apart. It may actually make it stronger because it shows you have a life outside of him. Friends should be just as important as new partner and more than likely you probably have known your friends longer.
While you're reading this you're probably saying to yourself that a woman should never let a her friends come between her and her man. Well the flip side of that is true as well; a woman should never let her man come between her and her friends. It's too bad that we all know someone who's done that, and we may even be looking at her in the mirror. And when the friends are dropped, all that extra time is spent with the new guy.
Their newfound relationship consumes their whole life. They barely call their friends just to chat, and have no desire to since the woman feels that he is all she needs. Sometimes her productivity at works slows down or her career plans are put on hold for him. Some of you may be saying "oh, that's not me", but it can happen unconsciously.
Remember, love should you complement you; make you a better person. It shouldn't leave you brain dead and possibly friendless and jobless. Think of this; the people that you're ignoring now in favor of your guy will be the same people that you will run to when the relationship sinks.
Although your friends may not say it, they probably wanted to confront you all along, but were apprehensive about putting a barrier on the friendship. Most caring friends keep their mouth shut and just listen to the sob story that is entirely of your own making.
If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple. - 32510
Unfortunately, deep inside you began to feel a bit neglected and resentful. Mental note ladies; men don't break plans with the fellas for you, so you might want to think it about it before you cancel plans with your girlfriends for him. Actually, if he cares that deeply about you, he would probably insist that you keep you current plans.
There is a popular policy in business where it's "first come, first served." Why can't it be that way in relationships? If the relationship is strong enough, being with friends every now and then should not tear you apart. It may actually make it stronger because it shows you have a life outside of him. Friends should be just as important as new partner and more than likely you probably have known your friends longer.
While you're reading this you're probably saying to yourself that a woman should never let a her friends come between her and her man. Well the flip side of that is true as well; a woman should never let her man come between her and her friends. It's too bad that we all know someone who's done that, and we may even be looking at her in the mirror. And when the friends are dropped, all that extra time is spent with the new guy.
Their newfound relationship consumes their whole life. They barely call their friends just to chat, and have no desire to since the woman feels that he is all she needs. Sometimes her productivity at works slows down or her career plans are put on hold for him. Some of you may be saying "oh, that's not me", but it can happen unconsciously.
Remember, love should you complement you; make you a better person. It shouldn't leave you brain dead and possibly friendless and jobless. Think of this; the people that you're ignoring now in favor of your guy will be the same people that you will run to when the relationship sinks.
Although your friends may not say it, they probably wanted to confront you all along, but were apprehensive about putting a barrier on the friendship. Most caring friends keep their mouth shut and just listen to the sob story that is entirely of your own making.
If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple. - 32510
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