When recently coaching a friend on an upcoming job interview, I realized that these scary meetings are very much like first dates. A lot of the anxiety is the same, as is your desire to make a dynamite first impression. Unfortunately, some of the mistakes are the same as well. Maybe you never thought about it like this, but the reason you didn't get that job you were amazingly qualified for could be the same reason you didn't get asked out for a second date by that adorable dude you went out with a few weeks ago.
Trash-talking the ex
It doesn't matter whether you're discussing an ex boyfriend or a former boss, if you bad mouth either one personally or professionally it will reflect badly on you. It's just never a flattering thing to do when you want to portray yourself in a good light.
If you're trying to snag a job, and talk about what an evil tyrant your former boss was, the person interviewing you won't be able to help but wonder if the super strained relationship wasn't your faultand she'll think twice before hiring someone with a history of workplace conflict.
On a first date? The rules are the same. Should you talk badly about your ex boyfriend to your date he or she will have cause to wonder how you'll be talking about him or her the next day! Most won't take the chance and you'll never see them again.
Runaway Mouth
When you're in a job interview or on a first date, do you ever stop talking? We're often so anxious to impress our great qualities on an interviewer or a first date that we fail to observe one simple rule. That is to stop talking and allow the other person to have their say. There's a fine line between confidence during a conversation and compromising that conversation with too much yapping.
Blabber Mouth: Again
I know it's hard to keep from getting too excited after a really promising job interview/butterfly-inducing first date but show a little restraint and don't jump immediately on Facebook to brag about your new job/change your status to "In a relationship".
If you're thinking that your potential new boss/dating sweetie won't find out about your public crowing, think again. We all know that the internet is a public place, and you're far better off keeping budding professional and personal relationships to yourself until you're on firm footing.
You had something in your teeth
Perhaps you had something in your teeth, or on your shirt. Maybe your cologne of perfume was a bit overwhelming. As unfair as it may be, there are literally hundreds of little details that could be off putting to someone else. These details will derail what was otherwise a pretty good first meeting. - 32510
Trash-talking the ex
It doesn't matter whether you're discussing an ex boyfriend or a former boss, if you bad mouth either one personally or professionally it will reflect badly on you. It's just never a flattering thing to do when you want to portray yourself in a good light.
If you're trying to snag a job, and talk about what an evil tyrant your former boss was, the person interviewing you won't be able to help but wonder if the super strained relationship wasn't your faultand she'll think twice before hiring someone with a history of workplace conflict.
On a first date? The rules are the same. Should you talk badly about your ex boyfriend to your date he or she will have cause to wonder how you'll be talking about him or her the next day! Most won't take the chance and you'll never see them again.
Runaway Mouth
When you're in a job interview or on a first date, do you ever stop talking? We're often so anxious to impress our great qualities on an interviewer or a first date that we fail to observe one simple rule. That is to stop talking and allow the other person to have their say. There's a fine line between confidence during a conversation and compromising that conversation with too much yapping.
Blabber Mouth: Again
I know it's hard to keep from getting too excited after a really promising job interview/butterfly-inducing first date but show a little restraint and don't jump immediately on Facebook to brag about your new job/change your status to "In a relationship".
If you're thinking that your potential new boss/dating sweetie won't find out about your public crowing, think again. We all know that the internet is a public place, and you're far better off keeping budding professional and personal relationships to yourself until you're on firm footing.
You had something in your teeth
Perhaps you had something in your teeth, or on your shirt. Maybe your cologne of perfume was a bit overwhelming. As unfair as it may be, there are literally hundreds of little details that could be off putting to someone else. These details will derail what was otherwise a pretty good first meeting. - 32510
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