Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it's a major, known issue, or you're just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn't mean the end. And it doesn't mean things won't get back to good.
What's not so good is that while you're in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I understand, I really do, because I've been there. If you want proof, keep reading for a sampling of three of the most common mistakes couples make to put their relationship back on track. Oh, and for the record, I didn't have a baby.
Babies
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I'm-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an "accidental" pregnancy. And it's not just the ladies...men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Invade your partner's privacy
So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he's nowhere to be found. You're thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You're delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.
Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it'll be inadmissible in court ('cause what you're doing is probably illegal) and you'll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you'll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.
Moving in together
When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let's face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It's an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.
So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper...those problems? They'll be back. Only this time, you're sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things. - 32510
What's not so good is that while you're in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I understand, I really do, because I've been there. If you want proof, keep reading for a sampling of three of the most common mistakes couples make to put their relationship back on track. Oh, and for the record, I didn't have a baby.
Babies
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I'm-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an "accidental" pregnancy. And it's not just the ladies...men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Invade your partner's privacy
So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he's nowhere to be found. You're thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You're delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.
Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it'll be inadmissible in court ('cause what you're doing is probably illegal) and you'll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you'll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.
Moving in together
When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let's face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It's an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.
So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper...those problems? They'll be back. Only this time, you're sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things. - 32510
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