Do Not Be Afraid of Rejection, Flirt!

By Wayne Brown Carter

Flirting with the female specie is deemed inherent for us guys, although we may have undergone a lack of self-confidence in mingling with them as we went through the process of maturing. The early stage of adolescence may have set off this self-doubt, and for a number of us, this timidity may have lingered until today. There is possibly an air of mystery that possesses us as we develop physically and intellectually from being a teenager to becoming a grown man.

No matter what the stimulus is behind this deficiency in self-assurance in dealing with girls, it has become a roadblock in climbing heights we want to reach. This is actually a reality even in other areas in our life including, taking steps in climbing the corporate ladder, qualifying for football in high school and flirting. In spite of this, we acknowledge that to be able to reach greater heights, we must put up a determined attitude to be able to make that climb.

This reality happens similarly with flirting with a girl and acquiring a new job. On the whole, our incapability to promote ourselves is the culprit for making us helpless in getting what we want. We flirt because we want members of the opposite sex to notice and like us. In this manner, we are really trying to sell ourselves to that particular individual. This works similarly to promoting a brand, wherein the advocate must have confidence in the brand for him to effectively convince others of its merits and buy it.

It is a common notion that in order for other people to like you, you must also like yourself. This also applies and is an important factor in your effectiveness in flirting with a girl. To produce the desired outcome in flirting, the first thing to do is discard the thought that the attempt may fail. When you set no expectations, you do not presume to make it or break it. Whatever happens, you do not lose anything.

When your expectations are positive, but you actually failed, you run the risk of feeling hurt. However, if you admit the reality that the girl will possibly turn you down, your emotions are intact whatever the outcome may be. You will not deal with rejection personally. Usually, this dreadful feeling of being refused or dismissed is what prevents guys to flirt.

Most of the time, what hinders you to be in the flirting game is the fear of being rejected. There is nothing more to flirting than catching the girl's interest, connect by making small talk and see if you spark chemistry. We adopt a relaxed stance when we start a conversation and not think about rejection.

By putting away the fear of rejection, flirting is nothing but a casual chitchat. Nevertheless, the intention of the conversation is still to draw interest from the other person. The strategy to effective flirting is to triumph over the fear of rejection. - 32510

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