You men out there like to think that the ladies are the only ones with a head full of neurotic, insecure, unreasonable relationship behavior. Let me clue you in to a bit of reality, manfriends: just because you're "super laid-back" (meaning: toilet seat can stay up, laundry can go unwashed) doesn't mean that you aren't making your fair share of love missteps. Because you are.
And from the perspectives of date, girlfriend, and platonic pal, we ladies have watched you make them all. So let's get constructive; here's what you're doing wrong. Now cut it out:
1. Paying more attention to the TV than your serious conversation
Things like the tv, video games, texting, playing online games etc take your attention away from the conversation at hand, and that's never a good idea. Your lady friend is going to think you're the bees knees if you give her your undivided attention. So find the off switch and use it.
2. Lying to yourself/others about your relationship status
Too many men avoid using the word "boyfriend" altogether in the same way that women tend to use it too soon. If you know what kind of relationship you want, and it's not a monogamous one, then more power to you; but you need to be honest about it.
If you spend your free time with one particular woman exclusively, you're sleeping together and you've met each other's friends, then you have a girlfriend. If that's not what you really want then change it.
3. Questioning our love of flowers
Or anything else that women love but seem totally irrational to you. The fact that the flowers will die in a few days doesn't matter, nor does spending money on something that won't live to see next week. We love them and we love the fact that you bought them for us. Moreover, stop applying reason to the small emotional pleasures of life. It's futile.
Your girl likes what she likes and you should be less concerned with breaking down the why and focusing more on the how as in how it makes her feel and how it makes you look awesome.
4. Double standards
I'm not one for gross over generalizations, but men are worse than women where double standards are concerned. You want her to focus all her attention on you, but then you launch into a rant about how it didn't mean a thing when she gets upset about your flirt fest with the busty bartender. Bottom line is this; if you want, you have to give. Simple. - 32510
And from the perspectives of date, girlfriend, and platonic pal, we ladies have watched you make them all. So let's get constructive; here's what you're doing wrong. Now cut it out:
1. Paying more attention to the TV than your serious conversation
Things like the tv, video games, texting, playing online games etc take your attention away from the conversation at hand, and that's never a good idea. Your lady friend is going to think you're the bees knees if you give her your undivided attention. So find the off switch and use it.
2. Lying to yourself/others about your relationship status
Too many men avoid using the word "boyfriend" altogether in the same way that women tend to use it too soon. If you know what kind of relationship you want, and it's not a monogamous one, then more power to you; but you need to be honest about it.
If you spend your free time with one particular woman exclusively, you're sleeping together and you've met each other's friends, then you have a girlfriend. If that's not what you really want then change it.
3. Questioning our love of flowers
Or anything else that women love but seem totally irrational to you. The fact that the flowers will die in a few days doesn't matter, nor does spending money on something that won't live to see next week. We love them and we love the fact that you bought them for us. Moreover, stop applying reason to the small emotional pleasures of life. It's futile.
Your girl likes what she likes and you should be less concerned with breaking down the why and focusing more on the how as in how it makes her feel and how it makes you look awesome.
4. Double standards
I'm not one for gross over generalizations, but men are worse than women where double standards are concerned. You want her to focus all her attention on you, but then you launch into a rant about how it didn't mean a thing when she gets upset about your flirt fest with the busty bartender. Bottom line is this; if you want, you have to give. Simple. - 32510
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