One of the greatest advantages of dating online is that we've already had the chance to chat before we've met face-to-face. We already have an idea what interests this person and maybe what they've done with their lives.
Although, dating online does have the ability to allow fantasy to override our normal instincts. That's why just because someone has a seemingly nice looking online profile, the offline reality doesn't always match.
Appearing shy on a first date is one of the hurdles we need to overcome to have first date success. Chatting online gives us a huge advantage for you to be able to prepare your offline conversation by taking notes based on your online chats.
Conventionally, many first dates take place at a coffee shop, but next time you arrange a date, think outside the square a little. Try a more casual and engaging environment like ten pin bowling or putt putt golf. Go for a bush walk perhaps and stop for lunch in the National Park, try something more interesting than the standard first date coffee shop.
So picking the venue for your first date is important, especially if you feel you won't win any awards for conversation starters.
Having met online first is a great way to use 'saved up' information to fall back on in times of the conversation flow drying up. Show interest in how you address their questions, and use their questions as a cue to build on other conversation topics.
And be open yourself - if a person sees that you're open, they're be more likely to be open in return. If conversation has stalled, and it's possible to change the venue, do so. Getting out in the night air can help. The other tactic is to just be honest and say, "Hey, I'm just a little nervous here, this being the first date, and I'm not sure what to say." Acknowledging the problem out loud can be a real ice breaker.
Keep the topics of conversation light hearted and on mutual ground. Whilst it's great to have personal views and desires, starting a debate about the politics of current world news is not the best way to offer a worthy first impression.
Be sure not to hog the conversation. A good way to further help achieve this is to make it easy on your date to participate in the conversation by asking more questions about the topic your already engaged in. Avoid straight out yes - no answers at all cost.
Our relationships guru, Diane Bishop, who has been involved in relationships counseling for more than 10 years was quoted in saying "The best form of conversation has always been and still remains - people are interested in interesting people. No matter how trivial it may seem, great conversation that combines two peoples experiences and opinions on a topic, forms the basis for stimulating conversation. - 32510
Although, dating online does have the ability to allow fantasy to override our normal instincts. That's why just because someone has a seemingly nice looking online profile, the offline reality doesn't always match.
Appearing shy on a first date is one of the hurdles we need to overcome to have first date success. Chatting online gives us a huge advantage for you to be able to prepare your offline conversation by taking notes based on your online chats.
Conventionally, many first dates take place at a coffee shop, but next time you arrange a date, think outside the square a little. Try a more casual and engaging environment like ten pin bowling or putt putt golf. Go for a bush walk perhaps and stop for lunch in the National Park, try something more interesting than the standard first date coffee shop.
So picking the venue for your first date is important, especially if you feel you won't win any awards for conversation starters.
Having met online first is a great way to use 'saved up' information to fall back on in times of the conversation flow drying up. Show interest in how you address their questions, and use their questions as a cue to build on other conversation topics.
And be open yourself - if a person sees that you're open, they're be more likely to be open in return. If conversation has stalled, and it's possible to change the venue, do so. Getting out in the night air can help. The other tactic is to just be honest and say, "Hey, I'm just a little nervous here, this being the first date, and I'm not sure what to say." Acknowledging the problem out loud can be a real ice breaker.
Keep the topics of conversation light hearted and on mutual ground. Whilst it's great to have personal views and desires, starting a debate about the politics of current world news is not the best way to offer a worthy first impression.
Be sure not to hog the conversation. A good way to further help achieve this is to make it easy on your date to participate in the conversation by asking more questions about the topic your already engaged in. Avoid straight out yes - no answers at all cost.
Our relationships guru, Diane Bishop, who has been involved in relationships counseling for more than 10 years was quoted in saying "The best form of conversation has always been and still remains - people are interested in interesting people. No matter how trivial it may seem, great conversation that combines two peoples experiences and opinions on a topic, forms the basis for stimulating conversation. - 32510
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